Chameleons
Definitions
according to the (edited) Urban Dictionary
1.
A person who
adjusts themselves to fit into whatever happens to be cool at the moment.
Includes their appearance, their interests, their opinions, their
personalities, often referred to as 'scenesters'
'try-too-hards' or 'idiots'.
2.
(v.) to take on
the personality of the person you're with at the moment. This is either done
subconsciously, or as a sad attempt to make people like you
(n.) a person who chameleons on a regular basis (i.e. they act different for every person they hang out with)
(n.) a person who chameleons on a regular basis (i.e. they act different for every person they hang out with)
3.
A person who tries to blend in with a certain crowd,
usually preps, just to get the satisfaction of being cool. Of course, they
are just fooling themselves that they have a life and are at all interesting.
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4.
A chameleon is a
middle-sized reptile that can change colors.
They are rather bizarre-looking, because their eyes can point in different directions.
They are famous for their ability to change their color to match their surroundings, hence the nickname, "Chameleon" given to anyone who changes with what's "Popular".
They are rather bizarre-looking, because their eyes can point in different directions.
They are famous for their ability to change their color to match their surroundings, hence the nickname, "Chameleon" given to anyone who changes with what's "Popular".
5.
(v.) to take on
the personality of the person you're with at the moment. this is either done
subconsciously, or as a sad attempt to make people like you
(n.) a person who chameleons on a regular basis (i.e. they act different for every person they hang out with).
(n.) a person who chameleons on a regular basis (i.e. they act different for every person they hang out with).
When I first read the question for this
week’s blog “Do you find yourself communicating differently with people from
different groups of cultures?” the picture of a chameleon came to mind because
I know that I behave differently with different groups of people.
Similarly to the aforementioned
definitions of the word chameleon, I can talk about people’s favorite subjects
to look cool and/or try to match someone’s personality to feel I am one of
them. Making efforts to fit in would be fine if I were able to communicate my
true feelings and ideas. Whenever I am caught in one of these strategies, I
feel uncomfortable with my surroundings; therefore I am unable to be true to
myself because what I communicate is not an accurate picture of who I am and
what I am capable of.
It seems fair to think that families
from diverse backgrounds may potentially feel uncomfortable when meeting their
children’s teachers and may communicate differently than if they were in a more
natural environment. Educators must keep in mind that families need to feel
safe and at ease in order to become effective collaborators in their children’s
school life.
Although what I have described above
seems extreme, this is how it feels and negative feelings take a long longer to
change. Since practicing awareness and re-directing of those feelings provides
relief, the Platinum Rule is the first strategy I will use to communicate with
families, colleagues, and administration and government agencies (Beebe, Beebe,
& Redmond, 2011). The Platinum Rule is the passport that provides needed tool
to become an effective communicator in diverse groups.
With this strategy, I do not need to hide
behind superfluous language. I can actively listen to speakers and learn from
them the best way to communicate with them (O’Hair, & Wiemann, 2012). If my
goal is to actively listen to people, the thought of matching those people’s personalities
will not manifest for lack of opportunity. Once those two feelings of
discomfort have receded, I will have access to my own cultural myopia.
Interestingly, the chameleon qualities have
changed since there is no more the need to “change color to match the
surroundings” (Urban Dictionary, 2013). Rather, I need to peel off layers of negative
feelings of discomfort because they prevent me from having access to my own cultural
myopia. Thus, developing an ongoing awareness of my cultural myopia is the
third strategy I would use to communicate more effectively with those groups of
people (O’Hair, & Wiemann, 2012). The phrase “cultural myopia” clearly
expresses nearsightedness that may increase if not treated in an ever changing
society. If the myopia is treated, new lenses help one see the richness in
other cultures (O’Hair, & Wiemann, 2012).
Reference
Beebe, S. A., Beebe, S. J., & Redmond, M. V. (2011). Interpersonal
communication:
Relating to others (6th ed.). Boston, MA: Allyn & Bacon.
O’Hair, D., & Wiemann, M. (2012). Real
Communication: An Introduction. Boston, MA: Bedford/St.
Martin’s.
Marie France, I agree with your definition regarding chameleons, a person who chameleons on a regular basis (i.e. they act different for every person they hang out with). However do you believe it would be ok to talk to the parents of your students the way you do to your friends, own children, even colleagues? I speak differently and may even present myself a little differently around my administrator then I do around my sister and family but that doesn't mean I'm not staying true to myself.
ReplyDeleteMarieFrance,
ReplyDeleteI liked your comparison of a chameleon. As I was reading your post, it sounded very familiar to teenagers. When children are young they idolize their parents and family members and soon after, fictional characters. As they grow older, they begin to idolize their friends and/or popular people at school. In the difficult teenage years, they are trying to figure out who and what they are and where they are going. I find this can be a time when they are chameleons the most. But you are right, it never goes away. As adults we learn that depending on our audience, we may have to act differently.
Thanks for the insight!
Victoria